THE ABORTION / SUICIDE CONNECTION
David C. Reardon, Ph.D.
In the 1960's, when abortions were available only for "therapeutic"
reasons, it was not uncommon for persons with the means and know-how to
obtain an abortion on psychiatric grounds. In some states, all that was
necessary was to find an agreeable psychiatrist willing to diagnose every
woman with a problem pregnancy as "suicidal."
Yet all the studies done on this issue show that pregnancy is actually
correlated with a dramatic decreased rate of suicide compared to
non-pregnant women. This has led some psychiatrists to suggest that
pregnancy somehow serves a psychologically protective role. The presence
of another person to "live for" appears to reduce the suicidal impulses of
a mentally disturbed or deeply depressed woman.(1)
Although pregnancy weakens suicidal impulses, there is strong evidence
that abortion dramatically increases the risk of suicide. According to a
1986 study by researchers at the University of Minnesota, a teenage girl
is 10 times more likely to attempt suicide if she has had an abortion in
the last six months than is a comparable teenage girl who has not had an
abortion.(2) Other studies have found similar statistical significance
between a history of abortion and suicide attempts among adults. Thus, the
actual data suggests that abortion is far more likely to drive an unstable
woman to suicide than is pregnancy and childbirth.
This abortion/suicide link is well known among professionals who counsel
suicidal persons. For example, Meta Uchtman, director of the Cincinnati
chapter of Suiciders Anonymous, reported that in a 35 month period her
group worked with 4000 women, of whom 1800 or more had abortions. Of those
who had abortions, 1400 were between the ages of 15 and 24, the age group
with the fastest growing suicide rate in the country.
Sometimes a post-abortion suicide attempt is an impulsive act of despair.
For example, 18-year-old "Susan" writes: "Two days after the abortion I
wrote a suicide note to my parents and boyfriend. I just couldn't fathom
how I could possibly live with the knowledge of what I had done. I killed
my own baby! I went down to the basement and figured out how to shoot my
father's pistol. Hysterical and crying I put the barrel of the gun into my
mouth. All of a sudden I heard someone upstairs. For some reason my father
had stopped by to pick up something. I stopped what I was doing and went
upstairs. He saw that I was upset and asked me if I wanted to have lunch
with him at noon. I felt I at least owed him lunch. By the time lunch was
over I was too scared to do it."
Other times, the suicidal impulses result from years of repression,
depression, and lost self-esteem. A 1987 study of women who suffered from
post-abortion trauma found that 60 percent had experienced suicidal
ideation, 28 percent had attempted suicide, and 18 percent had attempted
suicide more than once, often several years after the event.(3)
Sadly, in at least one documented case, an 18-year-old committed suicide
three days after having a suction abortion because of guilt feelings over
having "killed her baby." Later examination of the clinic's records
revealed that she had not actually been pregnant.
Perhaps one reason for the strong abortion/suicide link exists in the fact
that in many ways abortion is like suicide. A person who threatens suicide
is actually crying out for help. So are women who contemplate abortion.
Both are in a state of despair. Both are lonely. Both feel faced by
insurmountable odds.
Some "right-to-die" groups argue that we should legalize suicide and even
create suicide clinics where facilitators would ease people through their
suicide decisions. If we did so, there would be no shortage of desperate
people willing to exercise their "freedom to choose." Promised a "quick,
easy and painless" solution to their problems, suicide rates would
skyrocket just as abortion rates did in the 1970's.
Like the suicide clinics described above, abortion clinics also exploit
desperate people. They promise to release clients from the darkness of
their despair. They appeal to our consumer society's demand for instant
solutions to all our problems. They pose as places of compassion, but they
are actually reaping huge profits through the harvest of the lonely,
frightened, and confused people who are "unwanted" by society. In place of
life, they offer the "compassion" of death.
Granting the wish for suicide or abortion is not an aid to desperate
people. It is abandonment. It is a false compassion that protects us from
getting entangled in the "personal problems" of others. It is "cheap
love."
To those who look deeply, and care deeply, it is clear that people who
express a desire for suicide or abortion are really crying out for help.
They are crying out for the support and encouragement to choose life,
cherish life, and rejoice in life. They are crying out for an infusion of
hope.
Just as a suicidal person is crying out for help when she tells others she
wishes she were dead, so a woman who is distressed over a pregnancy is
crying out for help when she tells others she is considering abortion. In
both cases, the desperate person is reaching out in the hope that someone
will announce they truly care, and will truly help them. They need to see
the value of life, their own as well as their child's, reflected in the
love of those who would help them preserve that life. They need to hear
that they are strong enough to triumph in the life that is theirs, and
that whenever they grow weak, we will be there to strengthen them and even
carry them.
This requires us to engage in "costly love," a love that demands a real
sacrifice of time, energy, and resources. Anything less, they will
interpret as "You don't really care." Anything less, and they will be
right.
Notes:
1. Hilgers, et al, New Perspectives on Human Abortion (Frederick, Md.:
University Press of America, 1981) 156.
2. Garfinkel, et al., Stress, Depression and Suicide: A Study of
Adolescents in Minnesota, (Minneapolis: University of Minnesota Extension
Service, 1986).
3. Reardon, "A Survey of Psychological Reactions," (Springfield, IL:
Elliot Institute, 1987).
Originally published in The Post-Abortion Review 1(2) Summer 1993.
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